Despite cultural taboos and the potential for devastating consequences, infidelity among married men continues to be a widespread issue. Recent surveys and psychological studies reveal that anywhere from 20% to 25% of married men admit to cheating on their spouses at some point during their marriage. But why do they do it?
Emotional Disconnect and Lack of Intimacy
Relationship experts point to emotional dissatisfaction as one of the top reasons married men stray. “When emotional needs aren't met — such as feeling appreciated, listened to, or valued — some men look outside the marriage for affirmation,” says Dr. Lisa Morgan, a clinical psychologist and couples counselor.
Midlife Crisis and Desire for Novelty
For many, the temptation to cheat arises during midlife transitions. “Men in their 40s or 50s may begin questioning their life choices or fearing aging,” Dr. Morgan explains. “Seeking novelty or a sense of youth, they may be drawn to extramarital affairs as a misguided way to reclaim lost vitality.”
Opportunity and Lack of Boundaries
The ease of digital communication and dating apps has also contributed to a rise in infidelity. “Technology has made it easier than ever to connect discreetly,” says relationship therapist Andrew Cole. “Many affairs begin as seemingly innocent conversations online that escalate over time.”
Unresolved Personal or Psychological Issues
Experts also emphasize that cheating is not always about the spouse. “Some men cheat due to deep-seated issues like low self-esteem, impulsivity, or even trauma,” says Cole. “It's not necessarily about dissatisfaction with their partner — sometimes it's about inner turmoil they haven’t addressed.”
Can Relationships Recover?
While infidelity often leads to divorce, many couples do attempt reconciliation. Experts stress that recovery is possible, but it requires honest communication, therapy, and mutual commitment. “Affairs are symptoms of deeper problems,” says Dr. Morgan. “If both partners are willing to work, healing is achievable — but it’s a long road.”
As society becomes more open about discussing marital issues, researchers hope this transparency can lead to healthier relationships — and fewer reasons to cheat in the first place.